Why Do We Stay with Those That Hurt Us?

WHY DO WE STAY WITH THOSE THAT HURT US?

They manipulate us, put us down, stifle our self-esteem and make us feel like we’re worthless, yet we still stay. Why?

Some of us have been down right clueless when it comes to people who we love who hurt us. We have been deceived about the "unconditional love" ideal. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean you let them kick you around, trash you, verbally, mentally, physically, emotionally abuse you. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean you allow yourself to be a door mat, or dirty towel for someone to clean themselves up at your expense.

How can you love someone unconditionally if you don't even love yourself unconditionally...allowing someone to use and abuse you in the name of love is not love, it is the exact opposite. When I was young a woman of God that I have so much love and respect for told me "Don't Be Anyone's Garbage Can...Don't Accept Trash" I still remember those words to this day, but I lost site of the message being blinded by an unrealistic view of unconditional love.

You don't have to let someone use and abuse you to show that you love them. Learn to love yourself...distance yourself from all the people in your life that a hurting you. Don't stop loving them, pray for them, but take care of you like no one else can. You deserve to be loved by the same measure that you love and even greater. God loved you so much that He sent His ONLY son that you would have an abundant life. A life filled with love, joy, peace, & prosperity...not abuse.

Pattern your relationships after the one God has created with and for you, use it as your guide from this day forward. If the relationship doesn't meet the standard them change it...& I am talking about all of your relationships family, dating, work, girl/boy friends, whomever...DON'T BE NO ONE'S GARBAGE CAN BECAUSE THE MORE GARBAGE YOU ACCEPT THE MORE YOU SMELL LIKE THE CITY DUMP...AND WHO WANTS TO HANG OUT THERE!!!!!